I'm 20F this guy is 37M. So I go to the gym with my friends mom mostly everyday she is my gym buddy. She has this little group of like 6 including me and we all huddle up outside of the gym after it closes and we just talk and hangout for 15 minutes then head home. Keep in mind these ppl are much older than me. I never really say much because Idk what to talk about but this guy in

the group has become absolutely insufferable. He told my friend's mom that he had a crush on me. We thought he liked her because she's more his age.. turns out it was me the whole time he had a crush on ever since he told her he started making weird sexual remarks like saying it’s not fair I my friends mom gets to see me naked in the sauna(I literally wear clothes in the sauna but wtv) anyways I just told him off. He overstepped asking someone for my number without my permission was overall creepy to me.

The rest of the ppl in the group one of the guys said I was overreacting and saying he’s still a kid he doesn’t know any better and it just made me upset if he’s a kid at 37 than what am I? A child?? Anyways I don’t think I’m overreacting I’m honestly still pretty pissed about this whole thing. It’s caused a rift in the group but I could honestly care less I’m not gonna ask the people to side with me if they don’t think he’s weird for chasing after me in a stalking way then it’s on them.

Hi everyone,

I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if this was actually rude/something i should bring up at some point.

I (25F) went to my really good friend’s wedding. She didn’t have any official bridesmaids but I was her only unofficial bridesmaid. I wore the dress in the photos and the only “skin” was my arms and i guess my back as the dress had an X cutout which was covered by my hair.

The groom is religious and from a country near the Middle East with more conservative cultural expectations around modesty and clothing.

During the wedding, my friend told me, “John (fake husband name) leaned over and said, ‘It looks like (me) left half of her dress at home.’” She said it completely seriously, and she didn’t defend me or say he was kidding (I know he was not joking because I know how he is and his standards for my friend) nor did she say anything about my dress like it’s pretty or it’s good or fine.

Other guests that attended were wearing long dresses without sleeves, short tight dresses, long tight dresses etc. It wasn’t a super conservative reception at all, very informal and fun- drinking partying etc.

I felt really insecure and sad after and i’m just wondering why she would even say this to me. There have been other times where she has said that he told her I only got my job (a really good job) because someone in the interview thought i was attractive. Soooo it’s not just this one thing it’s plenty. It feels like I can’t do anything right?

So AIO? What do I do? Bring it up? Brush it off? Is the dress not okay for a wedding?

Oh my god I’m shaking right now so I’m sorry if this comes out confusing. I (20f) have a best friend (19f) and she has been dating this guy (21m) for about 7 months now. The screenshots are from her phone that I took and sent to myself.

I had a dinner and then hangout at my place for my birthday and she was ofc invited but then cancelled because of her boyfriend (who is very clingy) though she didn’t say it was because of him but I got that impression because he’s guilted her into cancelling before. To be honest, I was kind of upset because she’s my best friend and I wanted her to celebrate my birthday. I told her so. Last minute, she changed her mind and came out and I was really happy.

When we were out, he started blowing up her phone and demanding that she call him and come home. She was obviously shaken and finally showed me his insane messages and I told her she can spend the night if she doesn’t feel safe going home to him. She told him she’s staying the night and he flipped out and threatened to show up. We thought it was all talk but he actually did show up.

I was so scared and wanted to call the police but she begged me not to and left with him because she was embarrassed. I feel upset, scared for her (and me because how does the psycho know where I live??), and guilty for not calling the police while she was here. I’m very worried about her. I just want her to be okay.

Would I be overreacting to call the police now for a welfare check? She’s been gone for almost an hour.

Posting screenshots for context — looking for honest outside opinions. I’m fine with respecting boundaries, but I’m trying to figure out: were my texts actually overstepping? Was her reaction unnecessarily harsh? And how do you interpret that one message about her not speaking harshly — I’m not sure how to read it. Basically, I want feedback on my behavior, her tone, and that specific message.

A friend was hanging out a my home. We decided to get mcdonalds but in Australia it's expensive and I don't believe spending $16 for a meal, especially when I'm gonna get hungry 15 mins later.

Anyways a hamburger is $2 and a cheeseburger is $5.30

Sometimes when I go to McDonald's, I just get a hamburger and put my own sliced cheese in it and make it a cheeseburger.

We went to McDonald's and I did just that. I brought 2 X cheese packet slices, got 2 X hamburgers for $4 and put the slices in.

Keep in mind, we did drive through and no one was watching us. Just us 2 in the car.

My friend said she's embarrassed for me and I said, I ain't paying $11 for 2 X cheeseburgers when I just paid $4 and just brought my own cheese.

She said if I do anything "cheap" again in public, she will be more embarassed and will walk Infront of me.

She was actually serious.

Then I said "your top is from shien or temu, I don't think you can speak"

The little passive aggressive argument went on and I finally said "what is your fucking problem? What I'm doing is not that serious, I just brought my own cheese to save money. Not that big of a deal and no one is watching. I feel sorry for you that you feel that you need to impress strangers at McDonald's"

It was an awkward drive back home then she left my home. We didn't contact each other.

AIO?

Edit: Sorry, I didn't think this would blow up, to answer some questions:

- It was those packet cheese slices individually wrapped you get at supermarkets for like $4 for a packet of 24
- I didn't tell her I was doing it before we left, I just put those two cheese slices in my pocket, mcdonalds was a 5 minute drive
- Yes, you can check Australian hamburger vs cheeseburger prices, a hamburger is $2 and cheeseburger is $5.30 (but it can very from store to store, one store selling it for like $5.50)
- TBH, even if we were dining in, I would have still put it on. No one is going to care and I highly doubt anyone is gonna see, if they do see, they can judge all they want.
- My friend is not rich nor broke but also she's not the smartest person financially.
- I, myself ain't 'cheap' per se in the sense I will try penny pinch everything, I honestly don't see the point of paying 5.30 for a cheeseburger which feeds a 3yr old when I can just bring my own and pay $2. For 2 x cheeseburgers, I can get 5 hamburgers and just bring 5 cheese slices. I mean, do I want 2 burgers or 5 burgers for the same price? Also, the cheese I got taste way better than mcdonalds cheese IMO, it actually has a cheese taste lol.
- We went to McDonalds because it's 11.30pm, nothing is really open at this time except for expensive food truck places and their burgers alone (not a meal) can easily be $17+ for one burger
- After tonight, don't think I want to contact her again, she showed her true colours.

I (28m) woke up to a text this morning from my best friend (28m) of 21 years after he went no contact out of the blue 8 months ago. No warning, no explanation. Just gone. He stopped answering calls, texts, I’ve tried showing up at his house to see if he was okay with no response. Any effort of support or encouragement on my end, was ignored.

Before this, him and I would talk on the phone multiple times a week and we would hangout quite often. We never fought or argued or had any kind of falling out. So for him to just disappear was confusing and sad. The first few months I was extremely worried about his well being. He’s always been the type to bottle his emotions and not talk about problems he’s dealing with. So I was concerned something happened that made him shut down.

That was until I found out he was still talking to one our mutual friends who lives in another state the entire time. I tried reaching out to the mutual friend and asking him if everything was okay and got left on reads.

After about 5 months I gave up trying to reach out. I started to accept that he didn’t want to be friends. Whatever reason he had was good enough for him to throwaway a 21 year long friendship. I’ve been grieving the loss of my best friend ever since.

Then this morning I woke up to this text from him. AIO for feeling angry and sad and like I don’t even want to respond back? Not out of pettiness but because he dropped me with no explanation?

I’m having a house-warming party tomorrow as I just moved into a new place and I’ve invited most of my close friends and family. One of my friend (in the screenshot) messaged me saying his grandma unfortunately passed away. She had been in the hospital for the past week so I was aware of her condition.

But this has just left me shocked and baffled. All I said was condolences and I’m not sure why this flipped a switch. Pretty sure he has blocked my number as calls and messages are not going through.

for context, we're both 18. this is my best friend since like 6th grade. he went out drinking las night, i had to stay back. then at like 11:30 he texts me this. this happened last night and i took the screenshots yesterday around midnight as well. is he being serious?

like we've joked in the past but it feels like he's actually being serious here and i need thoughts.

I don't know what to think and my mind is kind of spiraling which is why im posting here

ps. this is a burner because my friend knows my main account

also we're both guys

also ps. to everyone saying the burner is pointless, it's possible he won't come across the post. actually, likely. he doesn't use Reddit often. he pretty much only uses it when he's insanely bored or when I post something on my main account, because he follows me.

I don't feel I need to add extra explanation because the text messages speak for themselves. I want to thank everyone for all the support and advice from the original post, I've given the link below just incase anybody wants context-

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/8qXzPjKkTZ

I honestly feel very proud of myself for having the self-respect to tell him this and I feel like I've made the right choice. Once again, thanks for the love I got ❤️ hopefully this is it and I won't have to deal with his bs anymore.

We connected in the fall of 2024 when she posted in a local Facebook group about needing help with getting her daughter to and from school, and my daughter was set to attend the same school program so I reached out to help.

Ultimately, within a few weeks I had bought them groceries, given them rides, and thrown her son a birthday party. I struggle with my own brand of mental illness and tend to go “all in” with helping people when I’m able to. We became fast “friends” and I struggled to set boundaries.

Not long after, my best friend went on hospice and then died and I went into recluse mode and entered a deep depression and just detached from the friendship that felt like it was one sided which is why I wasn’t super responsive.

We’ve had some run ins, in our community and she’s quite explosive when she doesn’t get her way but every time I get a message from her, it gives me a pit in my stomach.

AIO if I block her? AIO by feeling like I’m being used?

I do know life isn’t easy for her and she needs help for her kids, but my plate is so full and I’m struggling enough to keep my own bills paid and household afloat, I can’t be responsible for hers too. I just feel like an AH.

For context, for my gf’s 30th birthday, her mom and I have been planing a super luxurious and decently expensive secret spa weekend for months now. It’s a secret she knows nothing about. One of my gf’s former coworkers texted and asked her if she wanted to go see a play the weekend we planned on sending her, an in a desperate attempt to preserve the secret, I texted her friend, who then responded with this. I didn’t think what I sent was rude, am I wrong here?

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Hi, 23(F) I lost my best friend, 23(m) to his girlfriend. We were 100% platonic we never dated we never even met in real life. We planned on it, we both live in the U.S but opposite sides, I met him through mutual gaming buddies one time and we instantly clicked(this was back in maybe 2022). We became best friends after we all played Human Fall Flat. After that we started playing 1 on 1 in games. We did basically every multi-player game together. We were inseparable. We talked everyday, we shared selfies, we knew everything about eachother. Our friendship was strong.

But recently over the past few months it started decreasing. Our jobs changed. So our schedules changed. It made it even harder to find time to play since our time zones were different (he's east coast, im west coast) So we didnt since early 2025. On top of that he got a new gf he had for maybe 3 months now that he worked with for a few years, So he made more time for her and his job. Which I understood. I was happy he got a good gf, he even said we could be friends and all play games together, and that we would like each other, and I thought that was awesome. But that never happened. Recently, he hasn't been responding to my messages. our last conversation before this was in late november. He left me on read in December after I recommended a song to him. (We're halfway in January mind you) and I texted 3 more times on different days and he hasn't seen them. I got curious and looked at his Facebook profile, I get an error. I said to myself "oh that's weird. I'll see if someone else's profile does that too. " None of them did. I figured something happened to his account. Because i figured if he blocked me, messenger would say something about how I been blocked. But it didn't. (new update? Idk) So one day, I was on Xbox and seeing who's online. Then I was just going through my friends list, and I saw that his gamertag wasn't anywhere to be found. So I go to messages to find our old chats. I go to his profile, and I see "add friend," and my body went cold. I wasn't thinking anything. I was just sitting there staring at the screen, starstruck. So I message him on our chats saying "you un added me? Did I do something wrong?" So i tell our mutual friend, asking if he knows anything about me being un friended and blocked. He said he hasn't talked to said friend since December. I asked him to ask our friend why this is happening. I speculated that it's his girlfriend's doing and that maybe there was an insecurity because im a girl(?) (She was in a very toxic relationship before this one so I suspect that she was cheated on alot and it made her insecure, which i can understand).

So he texts me back a few minutes later saying "it's due to her insecurities". Then I get upset. Like of course im upset! Why am I being punished for being a female friend to my male friend. That sucks!

So later in the day, while im at work (that all happened in the morning), it's late now, I figure maybe he hasn't blocked me on tik tok. So i messege him. And here's how our conversation went.

but it seems he didn't understand my last text was about his relationship. it hurts how much he doesn't care. 3 years of friendship wasted for a 3 month relationship. am I overreacting though? it's day 3 of me losing him right now and I'm done crying over it. but im still upset and thinking I shouldnt be this upset. I can understand her side. but I lost my friend over it.

For context, it’s my birthday on Saturday. My 2 friends and I planned a girls weekend at the lake with a cool air bnb. Today I received this text. I’m already so tired and have enough going on idek what to do lol.

Im not sure if im overreacting because I GET it, the restaurant is hard to get into. But I feel like because this is something we planned weeks ago, that this would come first…

I don’t even care to blur out my friends names lol they suck im so upset

I am genuinely not sure if I’m tweaking. I used to date a guy about a year ago and this man was TOXIC to a T, stalking, threats, emotional abuse, everything that was bad

He doesn’t live in my country but he came a few times when we were still ‘okay’ but I never invited him to my actual home, we always went to Airbnb’s bc even when things were okay I didn’t want him to have my home address, and when everything started going downhill, he genuinely stalked my address with all the info he found out about me flew from his country to mine and came to my house

That was deadass one of the scariest times of my life, and I genuinely moved after that, I changed my number, I did everything so he wouldn’t come again

But apparently someone I considered a ‘friend’ has for one been talking and for two GAVE that man my phone number knowing damn well everything he did last time

I am so unbelievably mad, I thought I finally found peace and I’ve been healing over everything only to go right back to feeling completely unsafe again, but my ‘friend’ is acting like I’m crazy because it’s been a year and he’s ’probably changed’

AIO?

So basically, a good friend of mine has been acting really pushy lately and keeps making these uncomfortable, really sexual ‘jokes’ though honestly, I’m not even sure if they’re jokes to him anymore. It’s been happening for quite a while now, and it’s starting to make me feel really uncomfortable. Every time he says something inappropriate or makes some kind of stupid request, I make it very clear that I’m not okay with it. I either say no directly or tell him to stop, but it doesn’t seem to matter what I say he just keeps doing it. I’ve tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe he doesn’t realize how uncomfortable he’s making me, but at this point it’s pretty obvious he just doesn’t care. I even have older and newer screenshots showing that this behavior has been going on for a while now, so it’s definitely not just a one-time thing. It’s getting really exhausting to deal with, and I honestly don’t know how to get him to finally respect my boundaries.

The last two slides are the images I posted on my story.

F24 here and my M28 “friend” (I put friends in quotations because we’re not close friends, just mutuals who speak from time to time) replied to my story and kept accusing me of self harm even tho I was deflecting his accusations.

It feels like weird behavior to me that he thinks he knows my “actions” better than I know myself. Would I be overreacting if silently cut him off? Was I actually being too rude for standing my ground?

I want to end a 8-year friendship over some comments my friend made and continues to make.

Over the years, she has done a lot of small things to show me she is insecure or just a hater tbh. She is beautiful and has a very nice body, and knows i struggle with body dysmorphia and have low self esteem, despite only being one size bigger than her and we often share clothes. Yet she makes a lot of really small comments about my body.

Once i was wearing a lace corset and she told me “thats nice that you felt confident to wear it, if it was me i would feel too fat in it” and that tops like that are for a “certain body” Lots of comments like these and i have told her i dont like them but they always happen.

Recently i was texting her asking her to help me decide between 2 dresses as a wedding guest (see photo). All i said was “do you like this blue one or does it give bridedmaid” and she went on the website, downloaded a pic of the plus size model wearing it, and sent it back with the caption in the photo. While the model is beautiful and looks great, she is wearing XL and i wear a medium (see photo 2). Its these small comments that have me asking WHY. Mind you this woman is 32 YEARS OLD. It is so high school to me.

She also does weird things like date/sleep with guys that i have gone out with once. Like l’ll go out with someone, tell her it didnt work out/ im not interested (or one i was actually interested in and she knew) and she will sleep with them within days. This has happened 3 times.

She also has plenty of great qualities, like being very emotionally supportive, always shows up and we always have a good time, and super generous so its not an easy decision.

Tl;dr: my friend makes subtle comments about me being chubby and i want to end our friendship over it. Am i overreacting?

So I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for a little over 3 years, and things are going really well. But he has these two female friends that I just cannot stand — and honestly, I think I have good reason but I wanted to see if I’m overreacting.

Back when we were still in the talking stage, I already had bad vibes about them. Something about how they acted around him felt off — kind of possessive and territorial. Eventually (and I know this wasn’t okay), I looked through their group chat on his phone. That’s when I found out my boyfriend had told those same girls about one of my biggest insecurities — that I’ve always struggled with body confidence and felt uncomfortable being naked and intimate when the lights were on.

Why he thought they needed to know that, I’ll never understand. And instead of responding with any kind of maturity or support, they mocked me in the chat — literally making jokes and sent a video mocking me in this situation. Screenshots attached.

My boyfriend apologized for telling them and things between us are good, but I can’t shake the bad taste they left in my mouth. They’re permanently in my “nope” category. I’m polite if they come up, but deep down, I’ll always dislike them and honestly wish he’d stop talking to them.

Has anyone else dealt with people in their partner’s life that you just know you’ll never be able to like, no matter what? Are my feelings reasonable?

TW ahead, mentions of SA.

context: my friend (23) and i (22) were supposed to meet this morning at a location she picked out (about an hour away from my house) and take pictures in our halloween costumes. while i was getting ready i got hit with an abnormal seizure—i usually feel them coming on and have time to lay down—and woke up on the floor about an hour later to her calling me.

i texted her back as soon as i was conscious (ignore all the typos, my brain doesn’t work very well when i’m coming out of a seizure), but i could tell she was mad. my head had a decent bump on it and i couldn’t see straight.

the part about “the stress of the other night” is because my drink was spiked at a halloween party on saturday, and i woke up to my boyfriend pulling me out of a man’s house and taking me to the hospital. i spent hours getting a rape kit done and talking to the police, and i don’t know what might have happened if my boyfriend hadn’t started worrying that i wasn’t home yet and come to find me. the whole situation was traumatizing and my only comfort has been his reassurance that it wasn’t my fault.

she’s one of the only other people i’ve talked to about it. a little while after talking to her about it she asked if i could still do the photos. i told her maybe at first if i was feeling up to leaving the house, then fully committed to it last night. i wanted to go. i didn’t want my plans to be ruined just because i got assaulted, but me having a seizure is completely out of my control, especially when stress makes them worse. i didn’t expect this reaction from her at all and i’m honestly so upset. am i being dramatic? am i reading too much into it?

I (25F) have a 2 year old daughter and I have been married to my husband (R) for 3 years

R was really supportive and it helped me a lot in losing the weight I gained during pregnancy

R has a really close friend (J) and his wife Gave birth around 2 weeks ago so they invited all the friends and family for a dinner tonight

Everything was going good until he started comparing his wife's body to mine, he just kept going and soon crossed the line when he compared my breast size, waist and body shape to hers and even made a few weird comments. R and J got into a heated argument and I had to step in between to stop them, I left the party with my husband

I texted J and confronted him about his behavior at the party and he said that me and my husband just didn't understood his joke and overreacted and he was just doing it to motivate his wife to lose her pregnancy weight

AIO

Posting on a throwaway account for anonymity

I (15f) and my bff (15f) had a sleepover last night and today she posted sleepover dumps on her story, i saw it a little too late like 6 hours after it was posted. She’s kind of a public figure on insta(40k followers) and you can already guess that the majority of her followers are p3dos, we talked about it a lot and she’s never worried about it. i also told her i was never comfortable with her sharing my face on there

But she did and its also a picture of me in a tank top and no bra, with my hair up. It was a picture of us but she did not ask me if she could post that. She tagged me too and now i have so many follower and dm requests from pedos, married men and just creeps in general. People from our school have seen it too and dmed me asking if i stopped wearing hijab and I’m scared it might reach to my parents

I “educated” her about my culture and religion but it seems like she doesnt take it seriously or take ME seriously, i feel so exposed and the picture is still up. I want to go to her house but since i has sleepover last night, I cant go out today. (Strict parents logic) and she doesn’t want to come over either

I feel violated, am i overreacting? I don’t know, she’s making me feel like i am

My guy best friend (22M) and me (21F) were at this party last night and we got a little too drunk, both of us. His gf (22F) was there too but honestly I don’t remember much. I do remember that after a few drinks he pulled me into his lap at some point and like cuddled or whatever, and then later he walked me back home. I’m not sure how his gf got home.

Honestly, it makes me sick to my stomach, I know it’s wrong and I’ve seen how uncomfortable she feels around me and I’ve brought it up to my friend before too, because he’s always kind of clingy (not this much but yeah) but he always dismisses it by saying she doesn’t care.

I brought it up to him this morning again and this is how he responded. I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or not, but I feel really bad and also I know that I kind of placed all the blame on him both in this text and on the chat which I really didn’t mean to do.

I feel really messed up about it but he’s my like, kind of like my rock. I really feel safe around him and he’s always been there for me when times are tough.

I feel super sick with guilt and also this hangover but I can’t tell if I’m genuinely in the wrong or if he’s wrong or if I’m overreacting or what, honestly.

i recently got a full time job at a small design studio after freelancing for a while It was a huge step for me and I genuinely enjoy the work my friend works in corporate and constantly makes little jabs about my career being easy or not serious I usually ignore it but during this convo I finally said something

I(F18) was hooking up with a guy the other night when my phone rang It was my friend, and I thought I hung up and tossed it aside but I accidentally answered. She ended up hearing everything.

Today she told me she had a recording. I thought she was joking until she sent me proof and now she refuses to delete it. I’m not sure how to go about this but I want some advice as I’m pretty much panicking. Would I be overreacting if I pushed this further and took some sort of action or is that not even possible

Hi, I haven’t posted here much. I’m not sure if anyone will even see this but I’d been with.. let’s say ‘C’ for 2 months now. I know that’s not a very long time at all and this may honestly seem childish but that isn’t my intention. A lot of the time he blames me for everything making me believe I’m always in the wrong. So am I in the wrong?